The Attacment Theory and My Friends Parents Divorce

The life someone lives is not always their choice. Sometimes the events that occur in our lives could be because of our parents. Divorce is becoming more common especially among African Americans. The significant event that I have chosen to reflect on is the divorce of one of my friend parents at the age of sixteen. The theory that I decided to use that would demonstrate this event is the attachment theory. I chose this theory to illustrate the significance of the event by describing her decision on what parent to live with and how she became more resistant of family and others. Growing up as a child life became rough for poor Natalie as she was born a premature baby. That alone had already caused issues between her parents who were emotionally unavailable because of depression going through the divorce, and dealing with a father who raped his other child. Growing up she was insecurely attached more than ever being hospitalized and separated from her parents because of her illness. She experienced insecure attachment mostly as baby while crying and no one responded or offered to comfort her while her parents were gone making her begin to feel like she was mistreated. When nurses would rotate throughout the night at the hospital not every person knew what her needs were for her specific cry. As a baby until this day she still reminisces on the times when she was hungry or wet, and experienced never being attended to for hours. Natalie always felt anxious because the